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Friday, October 8, 2021

"Corporal" Punishment by Teachers, Parents, Preachers, VIP's and Landlords

When i lived in Saudi Arabia in the 1970's, my father said he had seen public executions after Jummah. He also said that some people were "whipped" with branches of the date tree. He was born in 1923 and had also been in the British army in WWII. I think this practice of whipping and caning, and "corporal" punishment is also coming from the west, and specially from colonization. "Corporal" after all is the lowest rank in the military, so I guess they become the "whipping boys" or scapegoats for sadistic bosses. 

The wikipedia article
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corporal_punishment

states that in some traditional and native societies, corporal punishment was not used, because there was no private property in those societies. If there is no property, it can't be stolen, thus no need to punish people for stealing. Also, in indigenous cultures, property is often shared with the community, so less likely would have involved punishment. They did however shun people out of the tribe, if a person would become a menace to society. 

My father copied what the british army had done to him: Line people up, question them one at a time, and cane them. Since first grade, starting with "good" Catholic schools, our teachers used to cane us, pretty ruthlessly. All the teachers there were women. One even did kicking and slapping. In other pakistani schools of Saudia and Pakistan, hitting students on the palm or back of hand was common, using tools like canes, a foot ruler's flat or thin edge. A couple of my teachers in boarding school, sent boys to the hospital, by beating them severely, including with punches. Two of the students were top of their class, academically. The third was the top athlete of the school. These were good kids, not troublemakers. 

We grew up witnessing that it was common for preachers like "molvi saheb", or imam or qari, to beat kids for not memorizing a surah, or for not pronouncing the Arabic words of Quran, properly. Where did those religion teachers learn that method of "discipline". Yet we are told that Islam was not spread by the sword. At least in the subcontinent, many indigenous people become Muslim due the the kindness, honesty and spirituality of the sufi teachers. I can't imagine sufi masters beating anyone. It's doesn't seem feasible their lessons to parents about tarbiya, they were told to beat their children, over the heads and on the faces, using shoes, sandals and flip flop chappals. 

In the 1970's (at least), it had become normalized, for the teachers, preachers (imam, qari), and parents to beat kids. We see this still going on today, though it seems less prevalent. 

In the above wikipedia article, it also mentions that master's used to beat their servants. In places like Pakistan, that abuse of maids and servants being treated like slaves, still happens today. The master and slave history of United States is often forgotten or whitewashed, but that is a connection we need to make.

A very different kind of beating is described in the best selling book "My Grandmother's Hands", which talks about healing trauma and how it's passed on to future generations, in their bodies, souls and DNA. The (Social Worker) Author, Resmaa Menakem states that some African American parents use a flexible branch of a tree, called a "switch" or a braided switch which looks like a whip. He states that in slavery times, an African American parent might whip their child with that stick, so that the child would become more "obedient" and keep his head low, thus not get in trouble with the master, who would get the child whipped by a "cat and nine tails" type of massive whip, which literally tears the flesh of the person and leaves them wounded and scarred for life. Those African American parents were not being cruel, but instead were trying to protect their children to prevent them becoming the victims of the slave master's beatings and lynchings. Menakem explain it as a father saying to a son, "I would rather have you hate me today, than to have you be dead" [due to police brutality, etc]. 

Like the teacher, preacher and parent of the past in Pakistan, the VIP and landlord of today, still wields tremendous power, as if he owns the body and soul of the other person. As if the child or employee or "peasant" is their slave to be dehumanized. As if the master can beat "freedom" out of a person to subjugate and enslave them. This power differential is exercised in other areas of society, not to mention by politicians, governments and corporations. Any hierarchy is in place to emphasize that some people are more superior than others. With that, many people do use their position of power to oppress others, to hold others down, to treat others as hostages, to bring others to heel and kneel. A gangster is called: yeh sab ka baap hay. Or a badmaash is called: yeh sub ka dada hay. As if fathers and grandfathers are supposed to act like gangsters. And "Uncle" Sam is a our father's brother who kills millions of people around the world? Is that what uncles are supposed to do? Certainly, gangsters are bullies who only inflict terror on people who are weaker. 

What do you think are the roots of these practices, such that it has been (or was) normalized, justified and even legalized for "elders" and "respectable" or "honorable" (muslim) people like teachers, preachers and parents to beat children? 
Did colonization teach us to hate ourselves? The white supremacists beat native people around the world, like us, and we repeat their behavior and keep beating the children?
Extending these practices to force people into subjugation, are the tools of the state, including police brutality, law enforcement and (in)justice system at home... and militarism, war-profiteering and empire building to dominate and enslave the rest of the world. As Arundhati Roy says "We are all subjects [slaves] of the American Empire". 

Saturday, August 7, 2021

I’m afraid of sending my Kids back to school in person

 

I’m afraid of sending my Kids back to school in person

published in Santa Monica Daily Press, August 6, 2021 (with co-authors listed at bottom)


https://www.smdp.com/im-afraid-of-sending-my-kids-back-to-school-in-person/207282

As parents, we can’t wait for our kids to go back to school. Due to the lockdown, many parents might feel like they’ve had much more responsibilities now, having to take care of children at home 24/7. For a parent who may also be working from home, it can be frustrating for having to ensure the kids have a proper internet connection to their online class, and that they are paying attention in school. The parents need a break. In the lockdown, kids miss their friends and also want to go back to school to socialize and play. We all want to return to a normal way of life, which was before COVID.

But are we really ready to send our kids back to school? There are many concerns, questions and fears. If the student is over 12 years old, they can get vaccinated. But what about the younger kids? They are at a vulnerable age, where they often get sick, and get exposed to germs by putting things in their mouth. How safe is the school campus? It is not clear what precautions the school will be taking. Will hand sanitizing stations be installed inside and outside each classroom, and in the playground? Will the kids go through some training about social distancing, wearing masks, and how to prevent the spread of COVID? Is there medical staff available at each school to take care of kids? Will each student’s temperature be checked before entering the school? On the other hand, a student can be a COVID carrier, yet not exhibit symptoms, and so they could be unknowingly infecting other kids. How safe do the school staff feel? What is the school policy on COVID testing of students? If a classmate later gets diagnosed with COVID, will any of the classmates be required to stay home for 2 weeks?

How can school staff monitor kids to make sure they wear face masks at all times? When playing outside the classroom during the breaks, kids can be expected to take their masks off. It can be difficult to breathe in a mask. When kids are running around playing, the mask can further hinder their breathing. Are the playgrounds properly sanitized every day? How safe is the classroom? Schools have installed plexiglass dividers in some classrooms, which are only about 2 feet above the student’s desk. If COVID is an airborne virus, then how effective is the short plexiglass barrier? Will the class size be reduced? Often, each desk is to be placed about 3 feet apart. Are schools really ready to open up for in-person attendance, or are our kids going to be guinea pigs in this experiment? That’s a concern for many parents. Yet, some parents already have their kids in day care. Some students have been attending class in person. There is a lot still up in the air. These are confusing times. Policies keep changing also due to the new variants of COVID. Yet, one of the solutions often available to parents is to keep their kids in online school. LAUSD and other districts are offering the option of online classes, for those students who don’t wish to come back to school in person.

Raysa Barrientos, Fazeel Chauhan, Shamera Johnson, Claritza Rodriguez, and Mariana Vargas The authors work in various capacities in social services as advocates for youth and marginalized communities, and are candidates for Masters of Social Work at California State University, Long Beach

Monday, August 2, 2021

Buy Buy versus Bye Bye

 Doing Your Part in Lowering the Risk?


(The originial author is unknown. I was inspired by their creative use of the 0%, and added the bottom part to the graphic to expand the idea of Zero percent)

Wednesday, May 12, 2021

Teacher versus Preacher

 

Teacher versus Preacher

The Difference

by Fazeel Chauhan

11-23-16



At a Protest Against American Imperialism

At a protest against 
The Military Industrial Complex of White Supremacy
Los Angeles 

https://www.flickr.com/photos/10829153@N04/1944863870/in/pool-pakistanpolitics/







Thoughts on "Swift Meditation"

 

Thoughts on “Swift Meditation

  1. As always, well written article about a very interesting being. Your article is thought provoking. It reminded me of poems by Allama Mohammed Iqbal, poet / philosopher from Pakistan / India. He is known as the reincarnation or continuation of Rumi. He frequently refers to “Shaheen” in his poetry. I believe it refers to Hawk, Eagle, Falcon, because to the layman like me, they seem to be all in the same family. Some of these are well known verses or couplets, some of which we were required to memorize, from our Urdu text books. I think he wrote more in Farsi than in Urdu. In Iran he is well known as Iqbal Lahori. As he resided in the historical city of Lahore, where is shrine is, right at the entrance of the Badshahi masjid.
    Shaheen kabhi parwaz say thak kar naheen girta:
    The eagle never falls down because of being tired.
    Tu Shaheen hay, parwaz hay kaam tera:
    You are a hawk, your work is to fly.
    And this one, sung by Ustad Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan:
    Naheen tera nashayman qasr-e-sultani kay gunbad par
    Tu Shaheen hay basayra kar pahaRRon ki chatano’n par
    You nest (home) is not on the domes of the palaces of kings
    You are a falcon, hang out in the high cliffs of mountans
    The first line also refers to the crowd, most people: pigeons hang out in warmth of the crowd, at domes where they are given food, where they don’t have to hunt, and can be in the comfort zone.
    Whereas, an eagle is kind of solitary, flies much higher than a pigeon. Does it’s own hunting. Chooses the road less travelled.
    Iqbal, as a philosopher repeats this idea, about the nature of human beings. That it’s our nature to choose that high road. The heat which will produce gold.
    He was also using these ideas to inspire the Muslims of India, to kick the ass of the British, and to no longer live in slavery, which was called colonization.
    Jhapat kar palatna, palat kar jhapatna:
    Iqbal describes how an eagle hunts. It does not attack the prey from behind.
    The eagle approaches the prey (bird) from the front, and at the first encounter, does a close call, a fly-by. A generous move, to allow the prey to get away, if it can.
    Then the eagle turns, and returns to attack again.
    Iqbal lived 500 years after Rumi, but often talked to him. Iqbal calls Rumi his spiritual master. In Rumi’s masnavi, there are many amazing stories, with multiple meanings. In his story about the Merchant and the Parrot. The parrot is in a cage. Some scholars see the metaphors as: The parrot is the ego. Or the human being locked in the cage of the body. The way to freedom, is to kill the ego. Like in Buddhism they say, ego is the I, me and mine, which desires so many things. In psychology and in common language, there are many definitions of ego. In sufism, they say annihilate the ego, to be on a spiritual path. Some teachers say the ego is necessary to survive in the world, as a tool. Though any tool can be used as a weapon. Ego defined in that way, is that thing which makes a man unique, it’s what pushes him to compete, to hunt, to win, it’s what drives him. But that ego needs to be reigned in. If a man does not control his ego, his ego will control him. And that ego kills relationship. Perhaps the ego is also what makes a person selfish, confined, limited, on the ground. While generosity makes a person fly like a hawk, like Shaheen

Fazeel Chauhan on Jerry Quickley's Radio Show

 

Fazeel Chauhan on Jerry Quickley's Radio Show

https://www.soundhound.com/?t=100581866048276424


Poetry Reading and Songs: Fazeel Chauhan at the December 2017 show in Anaheim, California

 

Poetry Reading and Songs

Fazeel Chauhan Show

12-29-17 

https://events.sulekha.com/weekend-with-the-stars-shabana-hematyar-fazeel-chauhan_event-in_anaheim-ca_321308



Fazeel Chauhan Art Exhibit: 2007 Xenophobia Leads to War

 

Fazeel Chauhan Art Exhibit: 2007

http://vizualeyezart.blogspot.com/2007/11/fazeel-chauhan-fazeel-chauhan-fazeel.html


1) Xenophobia Leads to War (Graphic Art / Found Art)

2) Profiles in Racism (Graphic Art)

3) Religious Epicenter (Mixed Media)



Naya Hukamnama: The New Ordinance: Javed Akhtar's Poem translated by Fazeel Chauhan

 

Javed Akhtar's Poem translated from Urdu to English

by Fazeel Chauhan

https://cute766.info/the-new-ordinance-naya-hukmnama-by-poet-javed-akhar-with-subtitles-translation-fazeel-chauhan/


The New Ordinance, Naya Hukmnama, By Poet Javed Akhar, With Subtitles, Translation Fazeel Chauhan

the new ordinance, naya hukmnama, by poet javed akhar, with subtitles, translation fazeel chauhan. revolutionary. beautiful poetry by well known poet javaid akhtar naya hukm naama kisi ka hukm hai saari hawayein humesha chalne se pehle batayein ke unki simt nayahukmnama 

 someone has decreed that all the winds must first announce their direction before blowing—a poem by javed akhtar. poem: naya hukumnama written by: javed akhtar.


Interview for: Art ‘Portal’ Connects LA With Iraqi Refugees – in Real Time


Fazeel Chauhan interviewed for the article: 

Art ‘Portal’ Connects LA With Iraqi Refugees – in Real Time
by Matt Reynolds

4-21-17

 https://www.courthousenews.com/art-portal-connects-la-iraqi-refugees-real-time/


As news of the U.S. action filtered through, Fazeel Chauhan, 53, an analyst from Pomona, emerged from the darkness of the gold container into the mid-morning sun.

They had just been talking to three young men at the Harsham camp who were in a portal that had been converted from a disused pumping station. Some 1,500 Iraqi families who fled Mosul live at the camp.

Pakistani-born Chauhan gestured to two bulletin boards in the park where people had left post-it notes. One of them struck a chord. The writer noted that if people talked more often it could lead to world peace.

Visitors’ notes reflecting their experiences inside the portal. (Matt Reynolds/CNS)

“I know with Trump it seems impossible because he just dropped the biggest bomb like it’s nothing,” Chauhan said. “If American people in general had more interactions with Muslim people or they knew about Islam, then they would not be easily manipulated by ideas like Muslims are trying to implement Sharia law or hate their women, or they’re violent, or they’re terrorists.”

At the ITA Luncheon

 

Fazeel Chauhan

At the ITA Luncheon


http://aliveemployeesclub.com/wp-content/uploads/ARCHIVE/2006/200603-Alive-airports-street-fair.pdf



On the Sweet Gum Tree

On the Sweet Gum Tree:

 A few months ago, I started riding my bicycle in a suburb of southern california, near Pomona. And keep getting punctures from these thorns. It is frustrating to be stranded or to keep having to patch the punctures. But yes, Your article reminds us that the tree and leaves are beautiful.

posted on 4-30-18
https://www.gardeningandsuch.com/blog/sweetgum




Morons like Aamir Liaqat make a mockery of religion

 

from Petition Against Aamir Liaqat:

"Morons like Aamir Liaqat make a mockery of religion"

Translation of Qawali: Ni Me Jana Jogi De Nal


Qawali: Nee May Jana Jogi Day Naal

by Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, lyrics by Bulleh Shah

Translation from Punjabi to English, by Fazeel Chauhan

Also published in 2013 on:
https://www.sikhchic.com/poetry/heer_ranjha_the_epic_lovepoem_by_bulley_shah


Going to Mecca is not the ultimate
Even if hundreds of prayers are offered

Going to River Ganges is not the ultimate
Even if hundreds of cleansings are done

Going to Gaya is not the ultimate
Even if hundreds of worships are done

Bulleh Shah, the ultimate is
When the “I” is removed from the heart

[He] read a lot and became a scholar
But [he] never read himself

[He] enters the temple and the mosque
But [he] never entered into his own heart

He fights with the devil every day for nothing
He never wrestled with his own ego

Bulleh Shah, he grabs for heavenly flying things
But doesn’t grasp the one who’s sitting at home

Religious scholars stay awake at night
But dogs too stay awake at night, higher than you

They don’t cease from barking at night
Then they sleep in yards, all higher than yours

They [dogs] don’t leave the beloved’s doorstep
Even if they’re beaten hundreds of times, higher than you

Bulleh Shah, get up and make up with the beloved
Otherwise dogs will win the contest, better than you

O friends, don’t call Ranjha a shepherd
I shy away from calling him one

I am like a thousand Heers to him
Who am I, like countless others

He’s the ruler of Hazara’s throne
And I forever the plain Heer

Bulleh Shah, may God hear my wail
That I become shepherded by the Shepherd

Ranjha became a jogi and arrived
He exchanged into a unique disguise

He changed his name from Ahad to Ahmad
I’m going to be with Jogi

Someone’s with someone else, this one’s with that one
I’m together with Jogi

Since I have become Jogi’s
I have no “I” left in me

Repeating ‘Ranjha Ranjha’
I became Ranjha

Call me Ranjha now
No one need call me Heer any more

It’s not me, it’s he himself
He amuses his own self

The one with whom I connected my heart
I became just like him, O friends

Jogi is with me
I am with Jogi
I’m together with Jogi

After putting earrings in my ears
Decorating my forehead with Tilak

Hey, he’s not [a] jogi
He’s some form of God

He’s disguised as Jogi
This jogi has attracted me

This jogi now resides in my heart
I swear by the Quran it’s true

Jogi is my belief and faith
This jogi has marked me

Hey, I belong to him
Now I’m of no value to all else

I’m floating, I’ve drifted across, O people
My eyes inter-meshed with Jogi’s, O people

Call me Jogi’s female Jogi
Heer is dead, O people

In Khayrray they talk
I have to listen to accusations

I don’t know anything about anyone else
If I know anything, I only know Jogi

No one has attained what he has attained
His shadow is on both worlds

His fame is celebrated in both worlds
His shoes were kissed by heaven

This Jogi is full of wonders
In his hand is the rosary of “There is Nothing But One God”
Hey, his name is “The One With The Shawl”

If Jogi comes to my home
All your fights will end
I will embrace him
And celebrate a million praises

Bulleh Shah, a Jogi came
To our door …

He stole away Heer of Sayal
He came in disguise


(Published October 22, 2013)

Old Blogs of Fazeel Chauhan

 Old Blogs of Fazeel Chauhan


1) Fazeel's writings

https://www.angelfire.com/poetry/sweets/


2) Fazeel's writings

https://www.angelfire.com/my/arms


3) Some links to Bulleh Shah, etc.

https://qawali.tripod.com/hybridaccents/id15.html


4) Men's groups and family of women:

https://www.angelfire.com/apes/sterling/


https://csulbsocialworkers.blogspot.com/


5) Wordpress site (under construction)

https://globalzebra.wordpress.com/tag/fazeel/


6) MySpace website, before there was Fakebook

https://myspace.com/qawali/photos


Fazeel Chauhan Sings at Zawiya


Fazeel Chauhan sings at Zawiya

May 2016 

https://www.zawiyaperspective.org/543


Link to Sound Cloud for Music of Fazeel Chauhan

 

Link to Sound Cloud for Music of Fazeel Chauhan

https://soundcloud.com/sufi-human


Link to Flickr Account for Photos

 Link to Fazeel Chauhan's Photo Account on Flickr

https://www.flickr.com/photos/10829153@N04/


Reference to the 1996 articled: What Can I Do?

 

My article

"What Can I Do?"

Published in Pakistan Link. November 22. 1996. p. 5.

had this quote cited in the following research paper:

The trend toward medicine is so pronounced that an activist, who advises his fellow Muslims what they should do in America, tells them: "Teach the children to be leaders in government, media and community. Don't only become rich doctors." 

refernce # 55

on page 13 of the following article:

Demographic Characteristics of the American Muslim Community

by Khalid Duran

https://archive.org/details/demographic-characteristics-of-the-american-muslim-community


It's All Uphill From Here - After Obama's Election

 

  

It's All Uphill from Here
By Fazeel Chauhan

as published in Pakistan Link 11-14-08

https://pakistanlink.org/Opinion/2008/Nov08/14/06.HTM 

 

On this historical moment of hope and change, congratulations! "It's all uphill from here," a colleague said this morning.

The right-wing will make attempts to create obstacles for the Obama administration. So please stay politically active. There is a chance that change will be minor, and in that case also, keep the pressure on your representatives to demand what you need.


Violence vs. a Healthy Conscience

 Violence vs. a Healthy Conscience

by Fazeel Chauhan

as published in Pakistan Link, December 28, 2012
https://pakistanlink.org/Opinion/2012/Dec12/28/07.HTM


    In the wake of the massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary School, one wonders how does a person know the difference between right and wrong? We are born with certain traits and tendencies and also parts of our personalities are developed through learning. Some say it is a person’s conscience which reminds him to do the right thing and restrains him from doing the wrong thing. We teach our babies to protect themselves. “Don’t put your hand in the fire, don’t go out in the cold without a jacket, don’t stick your finger in the power outlet, don’t talk to strangers, stand up for yourself against bullies”, we unfailingly tell them. Many beliefs and ideas become cemented in our minds through childhood indoctrination. If those imprints come from a dysfunctional family, it can take decades to undo that flawed early programming. Thus the role of parents to nurture and shape  a child’s behavior and belief system is very important.

    In our lives, what we don’t know gets us in trouble, and more suffering is caused also because we have forgotten valuable lessons we had already learned. So it is important to keep that knowledge alive through reminders including re-enforcement of ethical ideas. The true character of a person is how he behaves when no one else is watching. Perhaps at that moment he is cognizant, or not, that God is still a witness. We are faced with moral dilemmas every day: should I pickup this wallet someone dropped, and keep the cash, no one will ever know. Perhaps the moral compass is located in the conscience, and it has to be kept lubed and tuned up through repetition of learning. Otherwise, like the heart, the moral compass can become jammed and the conscience could deaden.

    Fresh air is important for the mind, otherwise the ideas in there can become stale, which could have toxic effects on the conscience. In war, how can a person in power convince the army soldier to leave the comfort of his home, tear himself away from his loving wife and children, put his own life at risk and then go thousands of miles away to kill other human beings? Usually it requires dehumanization of the “enemy”, that they are not human beings. Also depersonalization of the “other”, that they are very different or crazy, to keep them distant, so that you don’t empathize with them. If you put yourself in the other person’s shoes, then usually you don’t want to harm them. So the military man has to be convinced by his superiors that what he is doing is morally right. He believes he’s a hero when shooting other people in a war. For some religious people, the conscience is a place where God lives, or a source which reminds the person to have fear of God. Maybe the conscience is inhabited by both angels and demons. A politician can then exploit the angels so they succumb to despair, and then he can compel the demons to take over and control the behavior of the soldier. Legal and illegal drugs are often used to deaden the angels. If the angels fall asleep, the person forgets he will be held accountable for his actions.

    Religious people say they are right and claim they protect human rights and injustices. Atheists or non-religious people say that millions of people have been killed in wars in the name of religion. Religious people believe they have a strong moral compass. They go to church, temple, mosque, etc., where ethical behavior is re-enforced in their minds. But non-religious people, especially in America and Europe, can also exhibit very ethical behavior and they don’t seem to have more criminal tendencies than religious people. In the West, more people are educated, compared to poor nations, for example in Africa. If it’s not fear of God, then what is it that prompts secular people to do the right thing and stops them from doing the wrong thing?

    In our daily lives, mentally healthy people can get stuck in bad habits or get lost in thoughts. Their buttons get pushed un-expectedly (or expectedly), which triggers strong emotional reactions within them. Some of these emotions can be: feeling hurt, feeling angry, feeling injured. When a person gets emotionally wounded, these feelings could overpower the moral compass in their conscience. Ethical behavior then is put on hold and fear of God becomes absent, even notions of self-defense can become suspended. At that moment, the person can burst into rage and do things he normally wouldn’t do and thus will regret later. This madness can drive him to commit heinous criminal acts. In the past some criminals would plead “temporary insanity” in court to justify their violent behavior. A stressful situation can push a mentally healthy person over the edge and turn him into a criminal. Possibly, a mentally unhealthy person might be even more fragile and have less self-control. The fears can be un-realistic, for example feeling paranoid that someone will hurt them. So that person might be over-protective of himself or be overly aggressive towards others, because the threats are exaggerated in his own mind.

    Mental illness, like physical illness can strike anyone at any time. Clearly, in our country we don’t do much to address mental illness. Mostly, people are sedated with legal medications, alcohol and illegal drugs. If we call ourselves mentally healthy, we still have normal events happen which cause our minds to play tricks on us. What excuses, lies and justifications do we use on a daily basis to convince ourselves that our un-ethical behavior was okay to do?

    Too many tragedies have happened in America as a result of gun violence. About 87 Americans are killed every day as a result of gun violence, according to the University of Chicago Crime Lab and the Centers for Disease Control. In our nation’s history we have the gunslingers of the wild-west shooting each other mercilessly. As Michael Moore points out in his Academy Award winning documentary, “Bowling for Columbine”, we have a culture of violence and wars. Domestically, the war against the Native Americans, the violence against African Americans during slavery, the wars to take over California, Texas and Hawaii. On foreign lands, there have been 187 US military interventions in the last two hundred years in mostly poor countries of the world

 ( http://www.globalpolicy.org/component/content/article/155/26024.html ), which indicates a high tendency towards weapons use. Sadly, the powerful lobby of the National Rifle Association does not allow the government to ban automatic weapons like the military style machine guns. We as a nation somehow feel threatened and paranoid that there are enemies out there. The imaginary bogeyman is just around the corner every day instead of Santa Claus. Yes, there are monsters and criminals out there whom we need to stop and protect ourselves against. But how many machine guns are enough in the home? And how many military bases are enough around the world? And how many nuclear bombs do we need to feel safe? If a Martian lands here, he’ll say this culture of weapons, domestic violence and foreign wars, is very irresponsible, immature and dangerous behavior. Hopefully, the Congress will soon pass a law to prohibit all automatic weapons in our country, and some day ban all weapons at home and wars abroad.

    In last week’s massacre at Sandy Hook another cause is mental illness. There is another factor which brings up the old question: What is the most common and most acceptable form of child abuse in America? The answer is divorce. Children blame themselves for the divorce of their parents. These wounds may never heal and those kids grow up and become divorced parents themselves. Thus the poisonous pedagogy continues. A child would rather deal with the tragedy of both parents dying rather than dealing with the divorce of the parents. But in our society today, we are taught that divorce is normal and not harmful. We are encouraged toward instant self-gratification. “What’s right is what makes you happy”, is a common belief in our culture, which can make the standards of moral behavior very subjective. We can become very narcissistic and ruthless towards others, instead of using objective principles to guide our lives.

     The mother nurtures and spends much more time with the child and teaches a tremendous amount. But it is difficult for her to raise boys, without the help of their father. A boy learns from his father how to be a man. At times, the father has to be stern and tough to discipline the boy, especially to teach him that he should not be a menace to society. Mothers can find it difficult to provide such training consistently because their natural tendency is to be nurturing and forgiving. Women are relationship-oriented and men are individual-oriented and rule-oriented. One reason men like sports is it reminds them of rules and principles in life. Without accountability to rules, men become ruthless savages. A father can teach his son to keep an open mind so that positive messages and non-violent solutions can find a way to his conscience.

    The father’s voice often echoes in the chambers of a child’s mind to do the right thing. Divorce is like throwing your child under a truck. Boys who join gangs or become hoodlums often have fathers missing in their lives. One of the responsibilities of the father is to provide protection and security. So when his son does something dangerous to himself or others, the father should be there to stop it, prevent it and resolve it so that the home and the world are a safe space. As family members, and as fellow citizens, we need to take ownership when things fail, and ask ourselves: What was my role in allowing this to happen? For example, a parent should realize that they should not get divorced. A citizen should commit to civic engagement and ensure that gun violence in our country and wars abroad come to a stop.

    An important question to ask ourselves is: What is my responsibility in making the world a better and safer place?  The students at Penn State University serve as a good example. They came up with 40 acts of kindness and civic engagement:
  http://www.personal.psu.edu/uxg3/blogs/40ActsKindness/ongoing-acts-0105/

 

Sunday, March 28, 2021

Denial versus Awareness: Sequence of Learning and Growth


Denial versus Awareness



 

Dependence, Independence / Self-Reliance and Inter-Dependence


Dependence
Independence / Self-Reliance
Inter-Dependence


 

Everything Reveals Something About Me

Everything Reveals Something About Me



 

Definition of Love


Definition of Love


 

Code of Honor

Code of Honor



 

Important Definitions and Personal Payoffs

Important Definitions
and Personal Payoffs



 

Sequence of Learning: AKSM

Sequence of Learning
AKSM


 

Standards for Purpose Driven Teams



Standards for Purpose Driven Teams

 

Team Principles for Relationships, Leadership and Championship


Team Principles for Relationships, Leadership and Championship


 

Change: The Journey Up - Going from Careless to Mindful

Change

The Journey Up

Going from Careless to Mindful



 

7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Summary of the book


Summary of the book
7 Habits of Highly Effective People

 

Maslow's Hierarchy of 5 Human Needs


Maslow's Hierarchy of 5 Human Needs


 

Roles Diagram: Sequential Stages For Learning and for Results

Roles Diagram

Sequential Stages 

For Learning

and for  Results




 

Success via Relationships: Diagram

 


Thursday, March 25, 2021

After life: Joining the Creator

 After life: Joining the Creator 

by Fazeel Chauhan posted Mar 3, 2021

I enjoyed the research done by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, on death and dying. In one of her books she listed the findings of her qualitative research with terminally ill people. As she witnessed the deaths of many people in a hospice, etc., she found a common theme:

1) When a person is about to die, they start seeing close friends and family who have already passed away. 

2) The dying person sometimes began talking to those friends who had already died. 

3) Kubler-Ross deduced from these findings that those close to us, come to get us at the time of death. It is them because they come to let us know that death is nothing to be afraid of. 

4) You go to join the people you love after death. 

That makes me feel more accepting of death. For Muslims, when a person passes away, they say, "He has joined the Creator", or "She has become Beloved to God", or "They have returned to God". 

In Islam, the belief is that before birth, the souls were all together in one place. When a person is born, two angels are assigned. One writes all the good deeds and the other writes all the bad deeds, throughout the lifetime of the person. In the end, there is a judgement day like Judaism and Christianity. But before that, there are some steps. Judgement starts in the grave, based on good and bad deeds, the consequences begin there. Since humans have been predicting end of times or armageddon for a few centuries, it is also said that end of times or judgement day for any person is the day of their death. 

In Islam, at the end, the earth is described as: everything gets destroyed. After all that, all human beings are resurrected. Each person will be held accountable for their small and big actions. The record of their deeds are presented and put on a balance. If the good deeds weigh more, the person goes to Heaven. If the bad deeds weigh more, then the person is sent to hell. Similar to the intercession of Jesus, some Muslims believe or hope that Prophet Muhammed will plead for the Creator's Mercy to ask God to Forgive his followers. Yet, there is no automatic forgiveness. Some deeds which a person considered small, might actually be weighed as big. While some big deeds, might get weighed as minor, depending on the intention of the person. So the jury is always out. There is also the idea that while alive, a person can repent, do atonement and make amends. But when they die, it's too late. Except, if the person had done some works or charity which continues to benefit people after his death, then those good deeds continue to be counted, even after the person dies. Also if their descendants pray for the Creator to Forgive the dead person, this is considered beneficial for the dead person, because the Creator can choose to accept any prayer at any time. For example, if daughter gets a water well setup on behalf of her dead father, so that free water is provided to poor people, in a desert area, then the father's good deeds continue, even after they are dead. Thus many people try to leave a positive legacy.

Muslims believe that the Judeo-Christian and other Prophets are not dead, that their spirits live on. Sufi Muslims take that further to say that also the Saints and Sages are alive. Thus Sufi people gather at the shrines of the saints every Thursday in the form of a celebration with music, which might also include dance. In Islam, the belief is that the world is an illusion, or a dream. The idea is that the saints and prophets are present, just behind a veil, in the world of the unseen. On the other hand, the Earth is the world of what can be seen. And when we die, we wake up from the dream. And the life of the hereafter is what's real. This also helps people in grieving. They often say, my mother went to the Creator, and we all will go to the same place.




Co-Resist and Co-Exist

 

Co-Exist and Co-Resist
In the 1980's, people had bumper stickers like "Question Authority" and in 1990's, some were "Co-exist". A few years ago I saw a sign somewhere which built upon that idea and it was "Co-resist", against fascism, war, white supremacy, imperialism, etc. 

At that time I had modified that sign. And now I've modified it into another version, by adding the earth, to make the message clearer. I believe there is more positivity in the image I created (peace, harmony, hope, unity, etc.), or maybe it's just a B.S. pipe dream which can not be realized for another thousand years due to negative forces, like imperialism, militarism, and propaganda of "clash of civilizations" and "crusades" and some of dark spiritual forces (in the west) who want to hurry up to help bring about armageddon quickly.


 In the image, I've tried to push those negative images in the background. As Cornell West days, "I'm hopeful but not optimistic". 
I believe that spiritual groups can unite in relationships to work together to co-resist the dark forces like war and imperialism



Stepping Outside: Dance or Movement Therapy

 Stepping Outside: Dance or Movement Therapy 

by Fazeel Chauhan posted Feb 3, 2021  

Many years ago, in one of my Yoga classes at CSULA, I heard about and went to a movement therapy group session, which I found to be mysterious, and difficult to get into. For years before that, and years after that, I did not explore it, though by chance I had a few good experiences when certain trance music spontaneously made me dance. I had seen my brother dance at a Sufi shrine, where he went almost every Thursday night for the drumming and dancing spiritual gatherings, in Pakistan. There I saw a very raw and primitive form of the Whirling (darwesh) dance, which some people in the West may have seen, done in the tradition of Rumi, the poet from Turkey. I saw a famous singer try to join that dance at the Sufi shrine in Pakistan, but after a couple of minutes he came out with injured, bleeding feet. We could say that was the layperson's dance therapy, but I thought it was too difficult for me to do.

I have been close to music since childhood, and love playing music, and have enjoyed music from most parts of the world. But dance was something I found difficult. I have always been intrigued by primal dance of African and Native American peoples, but I never got a chance to participate in it. Yet, I have taken part in some other Native American rituals like sweat lodge. Since I have seen that people doing dance therapy or movement therapy benefited from it a lot. So I want to explore it. 

Also, last week in the Embodied Social Justice summit, one of the sessions was about dance therapy. In part of the session, the teacher took a long time to prepare the students for the movement therapy. In another session, a teacher said, "The issues are in the tissues". In my brain, I understand that we carry trauma in the body, or specially in the Western approach, there is a separation between body, heart, mind and soul. That is similar to compartmentalizing the personal life from the professional life, which doesn't seem natural to me. In Psychology I learned that integrity also means to integrate all our roles and identities. Something different would be a split personality or multiple personality. So I am reminded that being more in touch with the body, through dance or movement therapy, a person can better connect their body, mind, and soul. But I haven't looked into it so far.

I was raised practicing Islam in two predominantly Muslim countries; Pakistan and Saudi Arabia. Music and specially dance, are greatly discouraged among the conservative sects of Islam, for example in Saudi Arabia. In the culture, modesty is also emphasized, so dancing is considered showing off or flaunting it, or in some cases even the dances in Bollywood movies are considered vulgar. 

So those have been some of the reasons why I didn't explore dance or movement therapy in the past. But now I'm ready to look more into it and learn more about it.

Spirituality in Social Work - intro

Intro: Fazeel Chauhan (He, Him, His) for class...

Fazeel Chauhan posted Jan 26, 2021  

I have been interested in spirituality since childhood. So I am happy to be taking this class. As they say, no one religion has a monopoly on wisdom, and there are many sources of learning. Based on my life experiences, I realize that spirituality can be an important part of a person's way of being, and as a therapist I want to learn more about how to better understand, counsel and help people of different belief systems. Spirituality is a rich topic, and I expect to learn more about various faiths, beliefs, lifestyles and world views, so that I can become a better social worker. I expect to learn a lot to expand my heart and mind. What I'm most connected to: is to be a responsible global citizen and to serve a higher purpose through self-development and community service. In other words, to educate, entertain, heal, serve and tell the truth through poetry, music, videos, and counseling, etc. 

Whom I'm most connected to: is the legacy of my teachers, ancestors, and to the global community. My ancestors are from the ancient civilizations of the subcontinent India/Pakistan/Kashmir, where there is a long history of a variety of sub-cultures, hundreds of languages, mixed races (with Mongolian, Arab, Greek) and blended spiritual beliefs. I was born in Pakistan and also raised in Saudi Arabia and then in New Orleans (after 1981). I was raised as a Muslim, then became agnostic in America for 12 years. I have explored other spiritual practices like Transcendental meditation, Yoga, Reiki, chanting, QiGong, and Buddhism. I returned to Islam about 25 years ago and practice its spiritual path called Sufism. My spiritual practice helps me to connect with the Creator, and with the universal life force, and with humanity, specially through music, prayer and being in nature. I feel most connected to the world views of sages and teachers like Cornell West, Malcolm X, Hamza Yusuf, Fela Kuti, Frantz Fanon, Thich Nhat Hanh, Howard Zinn, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Robert Bly, and Sufi poets from the last 800 years, like Rumi and Muhammed Iqbal.

Spiritual Diversity in Social Work - video and book

Spiritual Diversity in Social Work:

 The Heart of Helping

 by Edward R. Canda 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90kRJjh-F80

Spiritual Diversity in Social Work:

 The Heart of Helping 

Edward R. Canda, M.A., MSW., Ph. D. is a professor at the School of Social Welfare and director of the Office for Research on Spiritual Diversity in Social Work at the University of Kansas. He is a member of the Religion and Spirituality Work Group at the Council on Social Work Education's (CSWE) Religion and Spirituality Clearing House, which was formed to "promote social workers' knowledge, values, and skills for ethical and effective practice that takes into account the diverse expressions of religion and spirituality among clients and their communities."

 Dr. Canda speaks about using religion and spirituality in social work practice. He speaks on spiritually sensitive practice, spiritual diversity, and what strengths and challenges are presented by religion and spirituality in social work practice. Themes of meaning, relationship, transcendence, wholeness, compassion, meditation, mindfulness, ethics and cultural competence are discussed.

 More information on Dr. Canda as well as spiritual diversity and social work is available on his website at http://www.socwel.ku.edu/canda/

​Presented on October 8th, 2012 at the University of Denver, Graduate School of Social Work.

Embodied Social Justice Summit: January 27, 2021

Embodied Social Justice - 5 day, free summit starts Wednesday January 27

On the link below, find the list of speakers, who are doing amazing work in the field of healing

For there is always light,

if only we're brave enough to see it

If only we're brave enough to be it 

– Amanda Gorman

Special Events

Nkem Ndefo kicks off the Summit  with her experiential presentation, Embodied Resilience for Sustainable Activism. This FREE online event has an amazing lineup of experts exploring questions such as:

How can we reimagine and embrace new forms of activism?

How do we take effective action in the world to respond to social justice issues?

How do we become the change we wish to see, and what does it look like from an embodied perspective?

How can we stay grounded and centered and increase our capacity for sustainable change?

Grab your spot for free here:
  https://learn.embodiedyoga.com/a/41539/joWbHcFQ

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The following are other future programs at Lumos Transforms, Los Angeles

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Calendar

Anchoring Resilience for Turbulent Times: Mondays at 12:00 PM, Thursdays at 7:00 PM, or Saturdays at 8:00 AM PST.

All About Certification with Nkem and Arrowyn| Tuesday, February 16th at 12:00 PM PST

The Resilience Toolkit Facilitator Certification Program – Cohort 10


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Unfriend Me.......................................... (alternate title: You Might be a Jackass IF...)

Unfriend Me.......................................... (alternate title: You Might be a Jackass IF...)

 

I wish to lose thousands of Fakebook “friends”. If any of the following are true for you, please unfriend me. If you don’t understand what’s in this list, it clearly means you don’t know the difference between right and wrong, or don’t care about it. So unfriend me. Thanks.

 

 103 reasons to #unFriendMe 

 or

 You Might be a Jackass if...

 by Fazeel Chauhan (11-7-17 )

1) If you don’t respect other human beings 

2) If you’d rather be right, instead of: do the right thing

3) If you are a fan of Trumps

4) If you use excuses, lies and justifications to continue your bad behavior

5) If you like military rule in any part of the world

6) If you can not do justice

7) If you belong to the Republican party

8) If you like to ask people which country or neighborhood, or caste they are from so you can judge them

9) If you make stereotypes of Brown, Black, Native, Asian, White people or other groups

10) If you think saying anything against American policies is anti-American

11) If you don’t like poor people

12)  If you think personal corruption in a person’s character, is okay

13)  If you hate Muslims or Islam

14)   If you hate a group of people based on their religion or place of birth

15)  If you dehumanize and depersonalize other people

16)  If you think your religion has a monopoly on wisdom

17)  If you measure people based on how much money they have

18)  If you like to wave your flag to claim you are superior to others

19)  If you have Xenophobia, homophobia or Islamophobia

20)  If you support groups or people who are funded by the CIA

21)  If you like the policies of the American “Tea party”

22)  If you are a fan of the Bhutto politicians of Pakistan

23)  If you like to put other people down, or to make them fail

24)  If you are a supporter of the Sharif politicians of Pakistan

25)  If you are a bully, or humiliate, or make fun of other people

26)  If you are a fan of Altaf Hussain or MQM

27)  If you are a fan of “religious” politicians like Fazl-ur-Rahman

28)  If you think there is no corruption in America

29)  If you think racial profiling is good

30)  If you think you are superior to others just because of your color, religion, race, ethnicity, national origin

31)  If you think there is no corruption in Pakistan

32)  If you think that only your religion is true and others are false

33)  If you think only your religious sect is valid and other sects are fake / non-believers

34)  If you think there are no bad people among religious people

35)  If you think there are no good people among non-religious people

36)  If you blame the victim

37)  If you think that every person already has equal opportunities and there are no social factors working against individuals

38)  If you think it’s normal that there are 70 million dogs and cats in America

39)  If you think that free universal healthcare is not a human right

40)  If you think Muslims are terrorists

41)  If you believe Osama bin Laden was not created by the U.S.

42)  If you think the Mujahideen of Afghanistan were not created by the U.S. and their sons the Taliban were not trained by the U.S. 

43)  If you think Saudi Royals are holy and not corrupt

44)  If you think that Guantanamo is good

45)  If torture is okay with you

46)  If  you are against Black Lives Matter

47)  If you think sexual abuse is not common in your own community

48)  If you have a high tolerance for the misconduct of preachers

49)  If you don’t know the difference between teachers and preachers, and you support preachers more than teachers

50)  If you can not recognize fake preachers or are a fan of fake preachers like Aamir Liaqat, Nouman Ali Khan, etc

51)  If you’re a fan of Rahat Ali Khan

52)  If you like talking about fashion, and want to follow the latest fashions

53)  If you flash purses which are over $500

54)  If you don’t know the difference between right and wrong and find loop holes in the grey areas

55)  If you like to show off your money, your breasts, your status and your conquests

56)  If you use people for personal gain and then discard them

57)  If you are a poser

58)  If you think Saudi Arabia does not have social ills like rampant pornography

59)  If you don’t care about the people who are less fortunate. If you are callous

60)  If you don’t help people who are in need

61)  If you like to take selfies

62)  If you have low standards of behavior

63)  If you don’t like children

64)  If you are full of bullshit, meaning hypocrisy

65)  If you use double standards

66)  If you like to gossip about people who are not around to defend themselves

67)  If you like to kill time

68)  If you think it’s okay to spend billions on warfare instead of healthcare

69)  If you like Bollywood movies and their sexualized song and dance

70)  If you like Columbus

71)  If you think countries don’t engage in state sponsored terrorism

72)  If you like Disney movies and don’t think they brainwash children and turn them into consumers living in a fantasy land

73)  If you don’t like people’s accents

74)  If you take loans from friends but don’t give it back though you have the money

75)  If you listen to Fox News or right wing talk radio

76)  If you don’t like other languages, or don’t like people who speak other languages

77)  If you think war is good, and killing people makes you feel proud

78)  If you don’t want gun control

79)  If you think atomic bombs are good

80)  If you think there is no connection between the Ammo-sexual gun culture inside America to the war mongering policies and weapons sales outside America

81)  If you like to criticize other people but can’t praise them when they do something good

82)  If you have prejudices against in-laws or automatically hate them

83)  If you harm others and think you’re doing them a favor

84)  If you justify the 800 military bases of the American empire, in 70 countries

85)  If you don’t give credit where credit is due

86)  If you think society has no responsibility in creating crime and poverty

87)  If you can’t survive without maids and servants and use them to show status

88)  If you praise the tall buildings, clock towers and luxury lifestyles of the elite and ruling class of Muslim countries

89)  If you think it’s okay for religious “leaders” to make big money from selling religious items or religious knowledge

90)  If you are being oppressive toward other people

91)  If you think you have automatic entitlement to get favors from people just because you were pampered by your parents

92)  If you are 100% sure you are going to heaven

93)  If you can not tolerate a difference of opinion which disturbs your comfort zone

94)  If you are cruel to other people

95) If you think it’s okay for new age gurus to make big money from selling spiritual items or knowledge

96)  If you make other people fight with each other

97)  If you are a taker and not a giver. Or if you hoard knowledge and don’t share it

98)  If you are closed minded, stubborn and not open to learning

99)  If you are a menace to society, what Robert Bly calls a “savage” man 

100)  If you are rude, obnoxious, negative or nasty, by default

101)  If you love brand names and use them to cover your insecurities

102)  If you can’t practice: live and let live

103) If you use the veil of religiosity to hide your hypocrisy